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Validation

Unbreakable Queen

As I sit back and look at the world in total silence I am appalled by the things I have observed. Everything is fueled by how many likes and followers you have on your social media platforms to the point the majority will do whatever it takes to receive it. I am disappointed in our society as a whole because it glorifies stupidity while ignoring intelligence. PRIME EXAMPLE…the term “PLANKING” for social media caused some individuals life to be cut short. What about the ones who thought posing with guns would earn their page to receive more likes ignoring the consequences of the action. A child without their mom or father could most likely become their reality and fate. Even by watching the stupidity is as if we are supporting the madness. Nowadays if someone is injured in a street brawl we will hear “WORLDSTAR!” before we hear “CALL THE POLICE!”Do this reality disgust you just as much it disgust me? I am all for building a platform for yourself but why risk your self-respect also?

The choices you make openly on social media will stay there long after you gone. A close friend of mine told me a few years ago Photoshop is the biggest Catfish ever because most times the woman look totally different in person but same goes for men as well. *NO DISCRIMINATION OVER HERE* For the record I had my share of bizarre moments trying to be “part of the crowd” but one important ol’ saying clearly points out that “WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER, DO BETTER!” and that is what I am walking in as of now. Each new day is designed for you to be a better individual than you were the day before. The choice is your to make and no one can make it 💡FOR YOU💡. Having validation from others should not fuel your desire but the validation you should focus on is your own! So what if you only have 100 followers or 20 likes or even 50 friends on your page. Why allow the opinions matter to the point you will do almost anything to receive it? Now that should be the major concern of the people who truly has your best interest at heart 👤Don’t you think so? Why does the validation from complete strangers matter that much?!

Something is happening on a much deeper level. It was common knowledge that no matter if it’s good publicity or bad publicity the fact someone is speaking about it IS ALL THAT MATTERS TO THOSE INDIVIDUALS👤 Which is heartbreaking but hopefully reality will start to set in before it’s too late! Why would someone post explicit pictures & videos of themselves as if overtime those photos & videos will magically disappear. I am deeply sorry for what I am about to say which is the horrible truth that once you put it out there it will never fully disappear. The chatter from it may have died down but it will always remain accessible if someone becomes adamant and determined on finding it. I have had my share of people who thinks deleting the content means it is permanently deleted from the everywhere but if your phone can be backed up how can you possibly think social media cannot be backed up as well?

The rule of thumb when it comes to the digital world is if what you are uploading online would be frowned upon by your friends, family, even your future kids, future employment, or even your future spouse but especially your own self YOU SHOULD PICK SOMETHING ELSE TO CONSIDER TO UPLOAD INSTEAD. Just my personal opinion you can agree or disagree with me I welcome all opinions with open arms 👐. Even better you have the open opportunity to tell me below in the comments if you wish👇💬.

True natural confidence come from the soul because nobody can tell you differently about who and what you are! Confidence is when you can walk and the clothes you have on cannot outshine the flawless smile on your face. Respect comes in play when you conduct yourself in the correct manner. Real men have more respect for themselves not to sag their pants in front of any girl or woman including their parents. Mature women have more respect for themselves not to show the world what only their significant partner should only be given permission to. If you can live with knowing what you allowed your social media to share with the world WHO AM I TO LOSE SLEEP OVER IT? What I do refuse to be is a spectator with the masses. By becoming another view I am fueling their validation because views count as much likes & followers do. I told you before I love to step away from the crowds and walk my own personal path💃I can dance my own path as well.

Maybe in the past I was part of the crowd but those days are long gone. I have more respect for myself to put myself in those types of foolish validation cravings. Hopefully others are as well.

Published by Unbreakable Queen

What can I say about myself? I spent a lot of my life in a shell afraid to come out and see what the world can really offer me. Today, I am proud enough to allow my life lessons to help others. So if you are having difficulties with Depression, wanting to run away from everything, tired of constantly getting hurt, have a huge misunderstanding of the things life keep placing in your path, feel hopeless about your future, or maybe just wish life would give you a break already...I created my blog just for you.

35 thoughts on “Validation”

  2. Great post. I have seen profiles of people, especially young people, that are complete dumpster fires. They expose themselves completely, the profile is public so it is inundated by trolls. It is very sad and dangerous for that person. They will never get back those pictures and videos. And it is known that facebook does backups of our profiles, even of the things we delete.
    I think validation is important, when you are recovering from BPD, for example. But not that kind of validation. Validation from a therapist, a friend, a loved one go a long way.

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    1. Yes validation from the people who truly want to help or have your best interest at heart is one thing but from complete strangers who can careless about you is another story. I have seen it as well and cannot understand why on earth do you sacrifice your respect and/or intelligence for likes or followers? But I have hope that one day reality will set in.🙏

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      1. Those people can have mental health issues and highly invalidating parents. So they search for attention in the worst way possible. Sometimes they are doxxed, people contact their families, they are harrassed. It is a pity, really.

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        1. Understandable and true indeed. That is the reason I want to help those individuals who may have physical health illnesses or mental health illnesses or emotional health issues. We can all help each other together😉

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  3. Validation of strangers is definitely unnecessary. Validation from loved ones like scarlettcat mentioned above is tricky. While it is definitely important, when we don’t receive it our sense of worth can plummet. I guess the key is to find a healthy love from those who accept you as you are and validate your feelings and want to help you grow. They key with validation is to find those who support you in a healthy way?
    I love the quote in the beginning. My worth shouldn’t be proved by someone but rather should come from within.

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  5. I have to say I agree. I love my blog and views and follows/likes on it do matter to me. I’m not gone on other forms of social media though. I do use FB but only upload what family and friends permit me to upload. xox

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  8. All my life, the greatest compliment anyone ever gave me was a back-handed one: “You are an individual!” I’ve taken that statement, made 50 years ago by a member of my high school’s elite, as a confirmation that I am on the right path.

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  10. Love this post!! Very motivational. A lot of what you are saying has been said before, but you just spun it I’m a fresh and creative way. Kudos for that!

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  12. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for this post!! I deleted all of my social media recently because I was on it primarily for validation. It was messing with my self worth and the image I have of myself.
    I love the points you brought, but I would add to it by saying that social media has also turned men into cowards. I’m completely against the whole idea of “sliding into the DMs.” Men have become so reliant on using Facebook or Instagram to talk to girls, they don’t do much to pursue them offline. And the reasons they message these girls are all superficial because they only see the good things these girls post, they don’t actually get to know them.
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  13. Social media is a weird and addictive game at times. There are plenty of pitfalls with the chasing of approval as you say. But as an introvert I have found another side which allows me to express myself and meet people online first before real life so it’s an easier transition

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      1. I used to use just to talk to people but now I’m enjoying online dating, well at least sometimes. It’s a nice easy way to meet someone and spend some time chatting first making that first meeting much more comfortable. With the right people you can open up a bit and share and you find a lot more in common then you would have thought.

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