Relationships

FAILED RELATIONSHIP GOALS

I am in no way a anti-relationship type of person. I love the idea of being in a happy, healthy, and long lasting relationship with the right person. I also feel that the handful of wrong relationships only exist to prepare you for the time you are given the gift to be in the RIGHT ONE. The one pet peeve I have about love is when it doesn’t work out for someone that individual feels as if it should not workout for anyone else. WHY? Such negativity will only prevent real in-depth love for you while others will do either two things which are

  1. STOP ALL COMMUNICATION WITH YOU ON THE TOPIC!
  2. STOP ALL COMMUNICATION WITH YOU ALL TOGETHER!

Allow me to explain why one of the two will happenđź“ť

Thinking every single person on this earth is exactly like your ex is annoying for the people around you to constantly hear on a everyday basis. Especially when you have not been casually introduced yet. Judging others before ever having any hint of their personality traits to go off on is pointless. *For Example*

HE or SHE cheated on you multiple times throughout the relationship so every man or woman is a cheater by default.

HE or SHE left a horrible after taste in your mouth and one look from the sex of your choice allow that after taste to return.

HE or SHE would constantly put you down and now you expect for each one that follows after to do the exact same.

HE or SHE would use your insecurities as ammunition to shoot holes in your self-esteem and leave the destruction as a *KEEP OUT* sign âš  for whoever may stroll pass.

Let’s not place every single man in the same bucket and that goes for every woman as well. Better yet pause for as much time that is needed to defrost that heart of yours. It can seem as if you are doing so for the right person which is indeed true but you are also doing so for YOURSELF TOO. Emotional constipation do exist and the only way to get relief from it is to help release it in the safest way possible.

Finding love has no expiration date and can happen at anytime so why rush it? What is bound to happen will happen.

When I hear from others the woes of trying to find love most times I want to calmly reinsure each that love comes when it believes you are ready to accept it. Even when you think you are most times that is a result of rushing. Becoming angry because it has not been working for you may mean you are not truly ready for it and the best thing to do is concentrate on yourself and allow it to seek you vs. you on the hunt for the “one”. There is someone for everyone and just because the people around you are all coupled up doesn’t mean your time will not come to pass. The term “RELATIONSHIP GOALS” are not the same for everyone and here are 5 couple examples I looked up to without truly understanding anything about when it comes to love.

  1. SINCE EVERYONE ELSE IDEALIZE BONNIE & CLYDE RELATIONSHIP I DID AS WELL.
  2. ROMEO & JULIET
  3. JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE & BRITTANY SPEARS
  4. TOM CRUISE & KATIE HOLMES

5. BEYONCE & JAY-Z

Disclaimer- I myself was raised in a single parent household so the dynamic of a healthy relationship was nonexistent to me. As a child I was kept in the dark about what ended the relationship between my father and mother. Their was no bad blood but the only memory that made me ask what happened once I became an adult was the constant rejections my mother would dish out to my father anytime he would come on to her. I recall at the age of 14 my dad told me to never be shocked when a guy cheats because that is something embedded in all males D.N.A. When a man cheats it’s because the female was not handling her business with her man correctly.

I understand now that in the past rushing was the cause of my own heartbreaks. Many break their own hearts accidentally and are hesitate to admit it so allow me step out and raise my hand first.